Are you tired of feeling stuck in your relationships? If you are trying to create the love and connection you want with other people and it’s just not working or you don’t seem to be getting anywhere, it is highly likely that you have some subconscious limiting beliefs about relationships that are getting in the way. And while it may not be totally your fault, you 100% have the control and power to fix it. When you’re ready to conquer any limiting beliefs that you have about relationships and love, the Dark Moon can be a powerful ally.

The Dark Moon phase, or when the Moon is at the tail end of the Waning phase (28-29.5 days into the lunar cycle), can support you in going deep into yourself and reprogramming the programs running in the background of your life that don’t seem to be serving your highest purpose and potential. This applies to addressing any limiting beliefs you have about relationships and love as well. The Dark Moon phase can support you substantially in making radical internal shifts, to get you ready to manifest the heck out of your life for the rest of the current lunar cycle. The Dark Moon phase can support you when you’re ready to stop telling yourself a crappy story about who you are and what you deserve, so you can create the life you know you’re meant to have.

I used to tell myself a crappy story about what I deserved and who I was, especially in the area of relationships and love. The crazy part is that I didn’t even know I was doing this or how it was negatively affecting me. This programming was constantly running in the background of my life, a deeply entrenched part of my subconscious that I wasn’t even aware of.

Psychologists say that our limiting beliefs are developed in early childhood (before the age of 7) about who we are and what we’re capable of, from things our parents say or by how they conducted their lives. They often come from how their parents raised them. Very often, we carry limiting beliefs around within us that are from generations and generations before us and they’re encoded in our DNA. The problem is that these beliefs are ‘limiting’ so they’re currently stopping you from doing or having something that you truly desire and can muddle your efforts to tap into your divine purpose.

If you continue to project your old, limiting beliefs onto your life, you invite people, situations, and interactions that match these beliefs.

While you didn’t create these beliefs, they are your responsibility to deal with once you become an adult. If you want to create the life you want, you have to learn how to create your life from intention–not from any pre-programmed beliefs.

Limiting beliefs can show up in any area of our lives, not just in the area of relationships and love. Anywhere you feel like you’re not achieving what you want or can’t seem to make forward progress most likely stems from an underlying limiting belief.

The good news is beliefs are super malleable, so you can change them and move beyond them.

Several different schools of thought exist about how to best shift your limiting beliefs, but this model is one most people agree on:

This means that each limiting belief in your life has an accompanying thought. And in order for you to shift the thought so you create a different behavior (and therefore a different action and result), you need to identify the thoughts that make up the beliefs.

You’ll need to change these thoughts both cognitively and behaviorally. When you change your thinking, then it’s easier to change your behavior.

Limiting beliefs are often incredibly hard to identify because they exist as habitual programs running in our subconscious minds. However, they will always leave traces that show up in our physical worlds.